Girls ready for babies at 14, says author

Monday, March 1, 2010
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Prize-winning author Hilary Mantel has sparked controversy by claiming that girls are ready to have babies at just 14 years of age.

The UK writer, who won last year's Man Booker Prize for Wolf Hall, suggested that society ran to a "male timetable" pressuring women to have children later in life, the UK's Daily Telegraph reported.

"Having sex and having babies is what young women are about, and their instincts are suppressed in the interests of society's timetable," she said in an interview published in the UK's Stella magazine.

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"I think it is that men's lives have set the timetable. Men reach a sort of sexual peak when you are 20, a social peak when you are 40," she said.

"There is this breed of women for whom society's timetable is completely wrong."

The 57-year-old, who was left unable to have children after suffering from endometriosis in her twenties, said that society was "incredibly hypocritical" about teenage sex and teenage pregnancy.

"I was perfectly capable of setting up and running a home when I was 14, and if, say, it had been ordered differently, I might have thought 'Now is the time to have a couple of children and when I am 30 I will go back and I'll get my PhD'," she said.

"But society isn't yet ordered with that kind of flexibility. We were being educated well into our twenties, an age when part of us wanted to become mothers, probably little bits of all of us. Some were more driven than others."

However, the writer's comments met with strong criticism from health professionals.

"Having a baby is a life-changing experience and 14-year-olds have enough to cope with just being 14," the Royal College of Midwives' Sue MacDonald told the Daily Telegraph.

"Girls of that age can be physically mature but not necessarily psychologically mature to cope with being a mother. It is much harder to be a parent if your own childhood is not complete," she said.

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Norman Wells, of the Family Education Trust, also disagreed with Mantel. "The real issue is not the age at which women become mothers, but whether they are married to a man who is committed to supporting his wife through thick and thin," Wells told the Daily Telegraph.

"When a child enters the world without a stable family home and without both a mother and father, it's generally not such a happy event — and that is the situation that most teenage mothers find themselves in."

Your say: What do you think of Hilary Mantel's comments? Share your thoughts below.

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I think the point is being lost is that its a world timetable that has only come about in the last 100 years. Being married and with at least one child by the age of 18 was the cultural norm for all but the upper-classes in all western societies until the social and medical reforms of the last century. For those that make the comment about childhood not being over, in times when the average life was 40-50 years starting a family young was necessary and before that in the hunter-gatherer stage in which humanity evolved, to put things in perspective when your wisdom teeth come though thats the middle age point of the human body as it evolved not as society has enabled it to survive.
If you find yourself in the position of being pregnant at 14. In my experience it appears easier to scrape the baby out of the womb than it is to scrape the baby out of the mothers mind. There are things in place to help the young woman in this day and age to keep her baby. I believe with difficult decisions the individual has to think is it right or wrong. Will this affect my life or the life of another person. Will this decision mean life or death. Mother Teresa said a termination kills two people the baby and the mothers conscience.
I am a fouteen year old who gos to a privte school and completely disagrees wit Hilary's suggestion. First of all, the boys who we are su[pposed to have sex with are fourteen as well, right? Well, the boys at my school are completely immature idiots who would not be able to emotionally cope with staying by one girls side. The only thing they look for in a girl is how big their breast are (not very big at all.) Also, are we supposed to breastfeed the babies? I'm sorry but my friends do not have very big breasts at all so that would definetly affect how the babes are brought up. I have a toddler for a sister myself and after babysitting her for a day iam wornout so imagine how i would feel lookng after her full time? How about society just lets us fourteen year olds be the kids we really are and doesn't pressure us ito doing tings we aren't ready for yet. We have 82 years of life on earth to things so why rush?
I think its wonderful that someone has been so bold as to try to quash this "teen mother" stereo type. It all comes down to a moral family upbrining and support. Instead of learing at the "teen mothers" maybe all of the "mature mothers" could smile, we will all have the same battles to face in child rearing. At the end of the day we are all women that have had the same wonderful, indiscribable , breath taking experience of becoming mothers!
As a fourteen year old, I think that this idea is ridiculous! Most girls at this age are more worried about what's happening at school and what's going on in Hollywood etc etc . Not to mention the fact that most fourteen year old guys have the maturity level of a pea! Also, pregnancy so young would most probably end up with the girl being ridiculed and shunned by people of both her age and the rest of general society. I know that I myself wouldnt be ready for the responsibility of another life, one that would be completely dependant on me until it turned 18. I know for one thing that my friends and I would never cope with such huge,life changing responsibility!Also, there is also the higher risk when the girls is so young, what with the pelvis still growing and all! I agree- this woman seems rather bitter because she can't have children of her own. SO yeah, I totally disagree. Girls shouldnt be having kids at 14! Katie
Different societies have different customs. It is thought that Jesus' mother Mary was about 14 years old. But my main concern is that in a typical western society they wouldnt have the same level of maturity. Even worse, their boyfiriends are less likely to be prepared as far as emotional maturity goes. I cant imagine many boys out their that would be OK with just having one girlfriend and marrying her for the rest of their lives either.
There is more to consider when having a child than the mothers point of view on readiness or what society dictates. Successful parenting In my opinion requires physical fitness, mental & emotional maturity & the ability to relate to a child from their perspective. I have seen this ability..& the lack of it ..across all age groups. However, in my opinion raising a child in ideal circumstances also requires both parents & a home with an income to support everyone in it. Whilst some older parents may find it more physically tiring than they imagined, they often have the emotional maturity & financial backing to make raising a child & tackling lifes challenges easier to deal with, & are more likely to be in a long term relationship with the other parent which in itself contributes to making a growing child feel safe and nurtured. Whilst a teen may feel ready to have a child, how likely is she to have ALL that a child requires in order to reach their full potential & become a happy adult?
when I had my daugter at the respectable age of 21, the midwife asked me how I felt about the birth, and to describe it in 3 words. I can only remember one of them now and it was horrific. The sensations of birth is what no-one can prepare an expectant mother for. The pain, the responsibiity and the consesquences. I remember saying to the midwife, I thought I was ready, but even I am struggling just a little at this point, but I cannot fathom how a 14 or 15 year old can have the emotional maturity to deal with this. They might be physically capable, but their emotional being could be compromised by this experience. Interestingly I had my tuibes tied after much discussion I was 'too young' for this too. If 14 year olds are ready to have babies are they too, ready to consent to permanent contraception too??
I had my daughter when I was 16. It has it's pro's and it has it's con's. Now I am 25 I can reflect on the whole event. Yes, when I was 16 I was young and probably very stupid. However, I made the decision to have the baby. The worst was losing alot of my friends and social life. Other than that I managed just fine. Now I am older and my child is in school, I have all the time I need to study or work. I have gone from no job to an Office Manager of a Financial Advising company in 4 years. I don't agree with all of the comments made by Hilary, but on some levels she is right. I feel great when I go to pick my daughter up and I am surrounded by a sea of worn out 50 year olds with a 5 year old child! But really, no matter what society says we should do, teenagers rebel, and when someone young does end up having a baby, they should not be scrutinised, but supported.
iam a 50 year old who got married at 17 & had babies at 19 & 20. Even at that age I was constantly asked "Did you have to get married because of the baby" wow you were young to have a baby etc etc At the time it was what i thought women did Even my mum would keep me off from scholol to help with the family business.. saying "what do you need a education for you're only going to marry & have babies anyway"!!. I went back to school at 32 & now hold a Bachelor of Science and am a Professional working women and trust me it was very hard to start studying 16 years after leaving school. This womens views are old fashioned & are amass to child abuse. She sounds bitter because of her inablility to have children. I now have a 19 year old sept daughter living with me. She is very immature (as a lot of young women today) & is as demanding for attention, support & guidence. She would not cope with a baby even at her age & my husband & I would have to care for it as she couldn't!

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