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Virginia Graham
Thursday, July 2, 2009
 
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There are now funds that will lend damsels in distress money to fund their life until their settlement...
 
Virginia Graham
You hear the same old story trumped out a lot, the woman who was happily married to a well-off man in a wealthy suburb, has three young children then all of a sudden, he moves out.

He is in love with someone else, and cuts off his wife financially, to try to blackmail her into accepting his settlement terms so he can run off, scot free with the nanny, secretary or woman he met on the plane…

Not many people feel sorry for his wife, as her friends and colleagues probably think she was so well off that she doesn’t need any help. She finds herself completely broke, alone and emotionally devastated. It’s even worse when her husband is for example, a lawyer and honestly thinks her contribution to their life as a stay at home mum (which he insisted on) is really not much of a valuable contribution. He thinks that she really doesn’t deserve much of his hard earned money as really she is worth little more than a house maid.

Unfortunately, this happens a lot. Just because someone does not have the power over the money or the high earning job and is therefore in a weaker position does not mean they have to take whatever pitiful settlement the ex husband offers her.

Enter the modern day Robin Hood for divorced women. There are now funds that will lend damsels in distress money to fund their life until their settlement or for reasonable legal representation so they can ensure they get their fair entitlements. These funds are expensive but not for long and if you get a much better settlement because of it, then of course can be well worth it.

One such fund is www.askfunding.com.au run by Brendan Lyle, who has many happy customers, over 90% are women. It is good to know these people exist to help women in their hour of need. Again if the settlement is not likely to be much then it may not be worth doing, but if there are substantial assets at stake then it can be worthwhile.

You can speak to someone at any one of these funding places to find out. By Virginia Graham a finance broker from www.modelmortgages.com.au

Have you ever been a damsel in marriage distress? Would you turn to a modern day Robin Hood to help you out? Tell us about it below...


 
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Granted there may be a small percentage of men that do have genuine intentions but in the majority of cases women are the victims from start to finish. It is the women who have to take time off work to have kids thus impede their working careers and it is the women who most of the time need to take more time off work to take care of children! And as children are both parents responsibility any income enarned by men during this time should be considered family money - she raises the children for the family he brings food on the table for the family.During separation it is only fair that women get a larger proportion of the family assets if they are going to take custody of the children as they are family assets not just his assets alone even though he has worked more or he has a stronger career! Anyway who is to say that staying at home with children is less work! I am suprised that there are so many of us women who cannot open their bloody eyes and see the obvious
strange the article was about robin hood but it turned into aforum on divorce, chlld support, shows how bitter and self centred we all become and use that catch phrase "its for your children" If an party hadthe courage to leave then find the courage to better yourself and prove to your ex male or female that you have moved on with or without their "financial help"
That is a basic concept. Feminists are playing opportunists in the sense that they portray women as the 'disadvantaged' when it is convenient. This article is a sorry story towards women. 1 If that man was well off then theres probably a reason why he's well off, money does not float out of the air. 2 Society favours so called 'minorities' or 'disadvantaged' groups. In the case of a divorce, the woman is more likely to gain custody simply because of her image. This does not reflect on her parenting skills. 3 For the commment about 'we should live without marriage' I'm sorry, whether you are married or not the psychological damage is the same. The fact is that when you are married an open (public) vow is taken, if you choose to break that then you are throwing yourself in the deep end. 4 It is verrrrry difficult to live with a cougar. If she walks into the marriage thinking she is a self sustainable machine then its over to begin with!!!
What a croc, lends funds to the women, what about the men. Such stories are so rare, deal with the 99% of the reality please. Some minorities of both sexes have stories they are hard done by in the process and or the settlement. The only real winners are the lawyers who have a vested interest in "TELLING THEIR CLIENTS LIES" they will get more, just let us keep at it. The system is fair, either party who worked or not 50 50 & share the children. Some minority outcomes outside this are so rare yet the lawyers keep telling their clients we can do better, they can for their own platinum lined pockets. The system is so overloaded by the lawyers. we both spent well over $60k each because both our lawyers told us they would ensure the other side would be worse off. Applications hearings paperwork galore outcome the same as if you had no lawyers 50 50. Usually is, I was then advised by a judge. Ask immediately for a court ordered mediated settlement *** off the lawyers except that.
That's great and all, but why discriminate? This should be open to anyone in need after a messy divorce. My friend's soon to be ex wife (because she found someone else and is leaving my friend to be with him) has never worked a day in her life, yet she wants her soon to be ex husband to only see THEIR children once every few weeks and wants both houses (one being a gift from my friend's father). Is that justice?
People (yes, men and women) cheat. They should have to pay for the hurt and pain they caused their spouse (male or female) - of whom they promised to love and cherish and save themselves for. Whether its the husband cheating or the wife. Their spouse got hurt and left with the mess. Grow the hell up. Whether they are supporting single parent divorced mothers or single parent divorced fathers. Its the children everyone needs to think about. What is best for them and how can they have the best possible chance at not repeating the cycle.
didn't Robin Hood give all his money away to those in need. This short term money loan is just another way of banks making money and it is not helping, just taking advantage of desperate people in need of cash. I had to take out a large personal loan to pay for my lawyer. After years of battling it out we ended up settling out of court because he was happy to keep what was left of the settlement (cash, house, investments, super etc) and I got to keep the kids. Yes I am struggling financially but the kids and I have a life that is free of fights, court battles and his desperate need to win at all cost. Now the children are in control of when they see their father, on their terms and they don't have to put up with his crazy behaviour or ever changing girlfriends. I wish there was a real Robin Hood out there that could help struggling families, single or together. Come on adults put your egos aside and put the kids first.
This service is needed. I have just begun to wrap up my property settlement with my ex and thankfully it look's like it will settle out of court. But, to get to this point, I have had to pay for baliff's to chase him and been back and forth to court more times than I care to count! I just wanted what was fair and equitable for both us - a 50 50 split. He does not pay for or see his son or the three children that he has from his previous marriage........he stopped paying child support for his older children when I left him and there was no one there forcing him to do the right thing. I am lucky that I have the strength and the financial resources to challenge him, but I understand why some women choose not to. It is emotionally very hard to go through the system - these services are needed to make sure that irresponsible ex spouses do not get away with anything, whether they are male or female. Responsible parents need support.
I can't believe how many times I hear about the women who cry poor when splitting from their partners. When will people learn to take a fair judgement to all. I see so many women using the CSA to crusify the father just to get a bit of revenge. There are fathers out there who want to see their children and bust their gusts out to support them only to have CSA take it all away because the mother says their entitled to it. Especially in 50 50 situations when will they learn that it is the responsibility of that parent to provide for their children when they have them. Not to rob from one to give to the other. If they can't provide for them without relying on what they take from the other parent then what does that say about their resolve to provide the best for their kids. This whole system perpetuates people looking for an easy handout just like the dole.
there is a lot to be said for woman to stand on their own feet before entering relationship and having kids. I am happily married but should we divorce, I will not be left with nothing- I will always have my job and be able to support myself and my child. As they said- man is not a financial plan, take care of yourself- because noone else will!!!!

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