The year that broke my heart

Wednesday, May 27, 2009
“It’s bad enough to have one brother die suddenly, but then to have the other taken just as abruptly is bewildering"
Deborah Hutton

In her most revealing interview yet, Deborah Hutton tells Michael Sheather about her devastating family tragedy, a new romance and how, at 47, she has come to terms with never having babies.

You could be forgiven for believing that Deborah Hutton, one of Australia's most recognised faces, leads a perfect life, unblemished by the troubles that most of us know. She is widely considered one of the country’s most striking women, with a beauty often compared, even today, to a young Candice Bergen. At 47, her complexion is flawless, her smile dazzling. She has a beachside home, an established career and all the glamorous trappings of a contented, fortunate life.

Yet Deborah Hutton’s life is far from perfect. The truth is that she also knows pain and sadness. She and her family have endured a grief that, at times, has been almost unbearable – a double tragedy that has claimed the lives of both her beloved brothers in less than two years.

Her brother Rod, who suffered a severe brain injury in a devastating accident as a young man, died suddenly, aged 47, after an epileptic fit in July 2007.

Shattered and bewildered that she should lose Rod so unexpectedly after life had dealt him such an unfortunate hand, Deborah and her family then suffered a second, equally devastating blow – the death of her brother David, 50, a husband and father of two young boys, from liver cancer, in February this year.

“It’s bad enough to have one brother die suddenly, but then to have the other taken just as abruptly is bewildering,” says Deborah, sitting, head bowed, at the dining table of her home in Sydney’s eastern suburbs. “There are so many mixed-up emotions: loss, sadness, grief, disbelief. I don’t know that I have come to grips with it yet and I don’t know if I ever will.”

On a sideboard in Deborah’s elegantly decorated dining room is a framed photograph of her with her brother, Rod. Downstairs, among a collection of other photos, is a portrait of Deborah enfolded in the arms of her brother, David. The affection between these three siblings is clear for all to see. They were close, though often divided by geography and circumstance. They were family who loved each other and that’s what mattered most to them.

And it’s from this affection that Deborah draws the only possible hope from a devastating situation. This and the two beautiful little boys – Jackson, four, and Joshua, one – whom David left behind. It’s in their smiles that Deborah finds a lasting affirmation of life and a signpost to the future.

To read more from our exclusive interview with Deborah Hutton, see the June issue of The Australian Women's Weekly, out now.

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In Jan 2012 Australian Womens Weekly ,Deborah Hutton gave a much more revealing interview than than she ever gave the Australian Womens Weekly 27 May 2009. In May 2009 , she seemed very unhappy with her life and was very sad . In Jan 2012 . she seemed very happy with her life and was very nicely unclad Happy birthday Deborah! Merry Xmas Deborah! Happy new year Deborah!
I think its a pity that Deborah cannot share with the readers about the comfort that her relationship with her female partner for 8 years brings her. As a lesbian role model Deborah should share with the readers the friendships that sustain her, such as with high profile successful women such as real estate agent Debbie Donnelly and her partner. Deborah has the potential to be the Ellen Degeneres of Australia, which is far more influential than the role she currently has. It would vastly increase the readership of the Weekly.
Life is hard. It's sad Deborah has lost her brothers. It doesn't make you complete having children. I hate the patronising comments like Omacoba made about the not having children. "The joys" for some not for all. If she really wanted children she would of another way. Motherhood is not for all.
enjoy the life that we all have life is too short!
I am sad for her that she has never experienced the joy of childbirth and motherhood. I am sure though that this beautiful lady is the best aunt and friend to young ones around her. Whenever I see her picture in a mag or on live on TV I see a serenity in her face that belies all the heartache that she must have endured. A delightful example of grace and femininity. I wish her joy, fulfilment and peace in the future.
KEEP YOUR CHIN UP DEB YOU ARE AMAZING!
When you lose a loved one, it has the effect of a wake up call that life is short and you must live life to the full, go out an buy that car, spend time with loved ones, stop and smell the roses, appreciate the big picture. I think Deborah will be confused and ask why she is here, what is the purpose of life and and at the same time be very proud of her brothers and their achievements. She must stay strong for her nephews, she will be the one to tell them about their father, what he was like growing up, how they walk like their father, lift their one eyebrow the same as their Dad, those types of treasures that only a close relative can tell you. As a public person, Deborah shares her life with us and in return we share her grief and wish her peace with her own lifetime memories of her brothers. From one who has lost a brother.

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